Ignite Your Confidence with Karen Laos

What to Say to Unsolicited Advice

Episode Summary

Listen as Karen talks about how to respond back to unsolicited advice (while keeping the relationship intact!). She covers why we give it in the first place, and how to deal with it from a mindset perspective. Karen also discusses what to do when you’re tempted to give it!

Episode Notes

Takeaways: 

• How do we feel when we get it? Most of us feel judged when we get unsolicited advice, along with frustration because someone made an assumption about us and they don’t know the full story.
• What to say: Affirm and appreciate that they want to help. Redirect to what you actually need or want from them. “Thank you for wanting to help. Here’s what would be helpful…”
• We give it because we want to help and we think we know (based on our experience) what would be good for them. We are wired as natural problem solvers and it could also be an attempt to connect. 
• What mindset to have when someone gives it: be compassionate and assume good intent. Breathe deeply if you need to. Remember you have the right to enforce boundaries and say something
• When tempted to give it, stop and ask yourself “do I really need to?” and at all costs avoid the word “should” If you really are dying to give it, ask if you can make a suggestion or offer an idea.

About me:
Karen Laos is a keynote speaker and leadership coach equipping women to stand out with unshakable confidence. She specializes in communication: executive presence and compelling messages. Karen champions female business leaders to own their value and find their voice so they can be seen and heard. She also works with teams to create cultures of trust and function at their best.

Karen has coached leaders at Facebook, Google, Netflix, Uber, Sephora, Sony, Microsoft, Fidelity, Charles Schwab, Trip Advisor, Bacardi, Levi, and more. Karen’s style is fun, encouraging and results-oriented. She immediately moves past the “fluff” and gets straight to the issue (just ask her clients).

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